Friday, November 19, 2010

simple smiles: learning from life

Sometimes in life, there are days when things just aren’t going your way, when more bad than good seems to happen in a week or the month is speckled with sad news. And then suddenly, someone says something or does something that just hits you the right way and changes your outlook on the way you see the world. After a few days of feeling down this week, I received the perfect email pick me up from my sister. Whether she knew it or not, the email she sent seemed to reach me at just the right time, when I needed someone to remind me that life is full of wonderful reasons to embrace all that I have been lucky enough to experience. The email was a simple list that has probably made it’s way around the Internet for years and for whatever reason, made it’s way to me at just the right time. The list contains simple life lessons from a lady named Regina Brett who wrote the list as she approached her 45th birthday (…and not 90th birthday as is rumoured!...because she’d be looking pretty darn good for a 90 year old!). While so many of her personal life lessons really rang true, there was one that I’ve heard over and over but seemed like the right kind of reminder this time around.
“Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.” Such simple words but all too often and all too easily ignored. I can definitely admit that I’m guilty of holding on to a nice shirt or waiting to wear that new dress. I save treats until the time is right. I’ve got the good duvet safely in the closet. But it’s something that I think I should consciously change. Because really, what’s wrong with today? Why isn’t today special enough to take myself out for dessert or pull out that pretty purse? I don’t think I’ll be putting on my party dress to clean the bathroom by any means but I think the lesson I’m learning is that I’ve got to make the most of what I’ve got. Everyday is something to be celebrated and if I buy some nice candles, why not burn them? If I’ve got good things in my life, why not use them? Company shouldn’t be the only reason to get out the good towels! Of course I’m still going to get excited over surprise nights out, romantic dinners or pretty presents…but getting excited that every day is a new chance to experience all that I’m lucky enough to have is a life lesson that I hope I never forget. So treat yourself tonight. Pull out the china. Wear your expensive accessories. Make today the right time because today really is special.

What do you save for a special occasion? Any advice for embracing each day?

10 comments:

Lily Riani said...

well said dearie. realising it is the first best step.

Brittany said...

I love this!

YOu're exactly right. Some times I get so stuck on the negative, but then Aidyn will hug or kiss me and all is well! I realize life is wayyy too short to stress about the small stuff!

Krystal said...

this is so true/perfect, why save things when you can use them now! glad you are feeling better :)

Krysten @ After 'I Do' said...

Very well said... or written, anyway.

Croatian_Latina said...

as a birthday gift my friend gave me an inspirational book, a particular quote stayed with me that I wrote it down on a piece of paper and I have it in my purse:

"..learn to lift a person or a situation, and never allow yourself to be dragged down into the depths of despair by anyone else's attitude. you are here to create peace, harmony, beauty and perfection. All the very best in life, so get on and do something about it."

this was my favorite part and I even shared with my sisters over email. It just sounds so positive.

Jude said...

How wonderful! And so true - why save for later when life is happening right NOW! Sisters are the best at knowing how to cheer you up, glad you're feeling better :)

Melanie's Randomness said...

I save dresses for special things. I should wear them more. I get my nails done for special times too. =)

SJ said...

i remember reading that email and feeling really uplifted as well. simple things like that can really change your outlook.

i've been working really hard on stepping back and trying to get a better perspective on things. bad days can't be helped but the less of them the better!

la petite coquine said...

What a wonderful post! Just last night we ate a delicious meal, share an expensive bottle of wine and took a bubble bath-just because we felt like it! It was so wonderful to treat a boring Sunday night like a special occasion!

Tee, Passports and Postcards said...

I love this post- it's something that I think about often. I tend to save nice clothes/accessories for special occasions but they don't come around that often and those things just hide back in the closet. There is something special for any day, so why not do nice things for ourselves more often?